Many of us struggle to talk to people we disagree with, says Julia Minson but learning to disagree better is the key to improving decision-making, managing conflict, and even living happier lives. A pioneering Harvard Kennedy School scientist who’s been studying the psychology of disagreement for over 20 years, Julia Minson is the author of How to Disagree Better.

She shows us how disagreement touches every facet of our lives: everyday family spats, teams hampered by fear of discord, and even our polarized democracy. And more importantly, she offers concrete strategies—some as simple as lists of do’s and don’ts—that can improve our conversations and turn us into better leaders, communicators, decision-makers, and family members. A funny and down-to-earth presenter, she gives audiences tools to become better at disagreeing, change the behavior of those around us, and lead lives of less drama and more impact.